Sheraton Tysons Corner Tysons VA Hindu Wedding Drishti Rajan Groom Parents

Relive the Groom Parents from Drishti and Rajan’s Hindu Wedding held at Sheraton Tysons Corner Tysons VA.

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Pre-Ceremony Venue: Manassas Park Community Center Manassas Park VA
Hindu Wedding Venue: Sheraton Tysons Corner Tysons VA
Event Venue: Sheraton Tysons Corner Tysons VA
DJ & Entertainment: DJ Vik
Makeup Artist: Suman Khosla
Wedding Decorator: Liz Walters

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Groom Parents: misty. Welcome to the hotel family as| uh| do off Rajan| Danish Patil| Ramesh Patel| Suncor Bay| Patel| Cassie Della’s family. So five generation that I just say that. And it’s a welcome here| all welcoming you with Patel. Thank you. My mom’s usually says that I don’t talk loud enough. So moms out there just raise your hand here. I think it’s kind of getting late. Way all want to eat. But if I’d like to share a few few thoughts if you would| um| the thoughts are about love and family. Um| I’m blessed| and we’re blessed to be here. Um| a lot of things can happen in life| but we’re all blessed to be here. Um| Gear and I these thoughts air are ours. It’s not just mine| but| um| one thought I had was when Mira was born 25 26 years ago| 27 years ago. Um| it was a long labour longer for gear than it was for me. I was in the hospital working and she was in labor and going in and out of the labor room. So I think Mira was born at around six. In the evening| and when Mira was born. I happened to be in the delivery room that time| which is a new thing then and after she was born and I first saw her| I said| My gosh| what kind of a face is this? She had a smushed face and most babies do in their first born. And I felt But you know what? When I think back or even that time| she’s probably looking back. But she didn’t open her eyes a little bit closer. So what kind of dad is this? He’s not even shaving. He looks gradually| but I think maybe the first time that Driss t met us| she’s probably thinking| What kind of a dad is this? It’s not like my father. I kind of like what mirror would probably think way went to a doctor’s office about a week in Thio Mirror being born and I was holding| erm| gear Oh| sitting next to me| we’re in the exam room. I’m holding her and cuddling her and three times different people in the office and people we’ve met. They made a comment something to the effect of gosh| he really loves her. And I’m thinking| what kind of a thought is that I mean| how many people? Okay| let’s see your hands of all the married men in this room. Now look at this. This guy answered a question| right? Right| right up that So how many are married and how many are fathers? And how many are fathers? That their first child was a daughter? And I’m thinking| you know| people think that maybe Indian families don’t love daughters as much as sons. Indian Emily’s rather have a son first. That’s what basically was going around there. And I felt first I felt really hurt. I really felt hurt. How can someone think that I don’t love my child? A daughter That was a mistake on that part? Variably. And she still Ben. I don’t think you’ll make a mistake. I don’t think it ever feel. You should never feel that we will never love Christie as her daughter or as a daughter in law. We love our family. Everyone loves her family. We love our kids. Everyone loves their kids. We all love each other. In here we have loved due to blood relations and love due to marital relations. Married couple| two families coming together and a bigger love is a divine love. When we realize that we’re all related by one creator that creates a bigger family. Marriage creates a bigger family. Blood relations eventually creates bigger families. There was a mention that about a year and 1/2 I think this courtships been going on. And| um| a lot of things happen. And one of the things that Christie made a comment| and I heard this it can we meet a lot regularly for the next? I think it was 12 months or something like that. Out of love. We parents made that happen. Knowing the circumstances. It’s not easy kids for parents to take off| work| to go on a trip| whatever expenses| energy| et cetera. I think kids realize that. But we made an effort| and I think this you realize that we did make it happen. That is a new expression of love| and it’s not a small matter. I hope so. You saw a lot of pictures about Rajan and Rajan growing up and talk about Rajan| and I think we all think all of our kids are cute. All kids are cute| especially our kids| and| uh| we thought mirror and may God too. But Rajan is a cute kid| baby. Otherwise| we ended up having three kids| but we wanted to have all I wanted to have. Six. We settled on three. But over the years we’ve had many of our nephews nieces common| live with us for extended period of time. And there are kids one way or another. I think God is making a dream happen where we get more kids than just three. When Major was born| Maiga’s Massey had come over at that time| and there was a couple of times that I remember whenever I come home where this would happen Every time I came home| I’d want to go and hold. Make us. She’s a baby. I’ve been a work all day. I want to go holder. And when I’d come home| her Masi would be holding her. And then I’d go to the Martians| Eh? Can I hold me guy? This happened a couple three times since she had a kind of ah| and not so welcoming face a couple times and one time| she says. What| you don’t think I take care of mega R well enough that you want to hold her. And I said| No| it’s not that I just miss her from all day and I want to hold her. She let me hold her| obviously. But this brings up on idea that| um| the lock your family is held thirsty for 22 years. We all have kids that we’ve kept for whatever number of years. This is a chance that we get a toehold Christie in our family and in our hearts. If and lock| your family will allow us to do that. And this is Thio more of all young| the young generation in the world| there’s Ah| the point is to allow us to hold and care for current generation or current trend| they said. We use a lot of this| a lot of this| and there’s a song that Rajan has liked| and I think many of you have made of hers. Cat’s in the cradle| where they talk about a parent not being around for their child When the child is growing up. I hope that all kids| all kids| will allow parents to show their love are holding them| taking time| having time with them and the kids come down from whatever place they are and using whatever device they are and allow that to happen. That’s allowing us to have love. Um| I think some people might know. But when Roger was born| I had a special name that I want to give him. Not a special name| a name. His name is Rajan. But I wanted to name him something. Another name? I don’t know if he remembers Prologue. Problem is what I wanted a name. Rajan When I grew up in high school time and I read| many of our scriptures have read about Roland| and problem was a Devote e of God| a true devoted of God. And I saw this in Rajan that he’s been going as mentioned earlier to SWAT guy for years| since he was young regularly| probably more regular than I. At times| he’s also been active and going in both very if if some know what about Fairy is and he’s been active on it for a number of years regularly. That’s something that I hadn’t had the opportunity or had the chance to do when I was his age. I always wanted to name Impala| but he’s come out like her a lot. He’s done a number of things that we all. Okay| so we’re talking about rods Interested| taped. This applies to all our kids| all parents and all their kids. We want our kids to be better than we are to have a better life than we do. The ultimate thing is this devotion or bhakti. But number of other things is it? Ah| He had attended youth camp and in youth camp one year there was a marathon Cyrano Musker and I have no idea how long now I forgot it| but I think it lasted for 234 hours of continuous pseudonymous car with all the youth and one by one| everyone dropped out. And he was| I think| the second or 3rd 1 our 1st 1 or last one to drop out. But the point is| he’s done these things that I could not have done. He| um| exercises regularly. He had a trainer. He went to the trainer. He learned from the trainer. He dropped the trainer and he continued the exercise on his own to this point| and it’s still doing it and inspiring others to do that. He’s done these things that I haven’t done. He’s going to accomplish getting three degrees| whereas I’ve only had two. He’s finished his bachelors. He’s finishing his MBA and he’s starting med school this August. We all want our kids to do better than we do the number. One thing I think to be better is to do Buck the But these are some other things that Ratchet is done. Um| I’ll never forget. We’ll never forget. Any one of us will never really forget our parents. When they guide us| my parents| as everyone else’s parents have somehow or another guided us. The times that I’ve listened to my mom and dad has turned out to be better for me. The times I have not listened to my mom. The dad has been a difficult time for me. I’ll never forget my mom and dad’s guidance. All the way up to I can think of major guidance is up to age 35. The guidance that I think Roger’s picking up on is this path of buck the whether we’re around| whether we as parents are around| the guidance that we get from him is going to guide us through life better than any other parent could. This buck deed that he’s been on this road that he’s been on since he was five or so really makes me feel proud that he has accomplished a lot more and is going to accomplish a lot more in life than I ever will. He’s a cute kid| is a cute boy| his acute young man| and he’s cute and different times two that are not necessarily what we would consider the best times. When he was in grade school| he cried. Going to school| kind of like what I actually had cried. Going to school when I was in grade school| I think| was around a first grader. Second grade| first greater second grade. I went to I walk to school| I think was first grade. I walked to school and I got there and the doors were locked and I thought| Everyone’s locking me out. Schools locking me. I started crying and I cried home. Rajan| there was a time when he would not wake up on time| get ready on time and get to school on time. It would be late| so one day he| our school| our home in our school is walking distance| but we would drive him to school as all our kids. One day I said| You’re gonna walk. So I took him in the car and I pulled over. I said| Get out of the car and walk. And then I drove the car forward and he was walking behind the card. He was crying to school. He’s still a cute. Then I didn’t do that to make him for your cute or look cute| but nonetheless years| even cute. When he cried| there was a time when ah| movies. We were talking the four of us| huh? Three kids and myself about movies and how they make certain things happen like magic. So we took our video camera. We made a magic of clip out of it. Something like Jeannie does. When she blinks| arising| she disappears. We did that on a video. During that time. He was a cute kid. He had ah needed some surgery when he was a young kid| 23 years old. He got some anesthesia or look aural anesthesia and the nurses carrying him over her shoulder| and he’s over her shoulder with her iron. That design handout arm out trying to hold on the mom and dad. He looked cute| even going to surgery. He had broken his wrist and went to the emergency room| and he had it realigned without any general anesthesia. He only had a local block when the doctor said it| realigned it. He’s yelled out so much that my father and my wife both start crying while they were watching this happen. He looked cute while he was screaming| too. Lastly| some good news and bad news. See it? We went to a few. We’ve all gone the weddings. There was one wedding. When the bride and Gru are there. How’s newlywed| husband and wife for walking? And you know| in the audience you can take your fork or spoon and tap your glasses and make a ringing noise like that That’s supposed to mean something. And this groom was walking and all he said was| No| it’s not happening| if you know what that means. That’s maybe not a good thing to say no| but in that case| I thought was a pretty good thing to say no. No. So when um| our families met| they’re standing. Rajan were talking and meeting There’s nobody I think Christie is more was waiting| Maur toe Have this day happen then? Probably me| which is really hard because we all parents want this to happen for our kids. And I think Mira wanted this to happen more than anything. But I think Dusty was waiting for this day more than anything. So when we met| there was always this issue of our one. Can we tell everybody? So Shamel Kaka took us to a restaurant and there were the kids were sitting here and we were sitting here. Shambhu Kaka was across the table| virile. B was here and I was here and we were just talking and I said something to the effect. We’re not something that I said that so dressy. When do we give out the bad news in reference to letting everyone know that they’re going to be engaged immediately. Very buddy took some piece of sweet I don’t know what it wasn’t shoved it in my mouth. I remember that little did he know that I had diabetes is that’s not a good thing for me to have necessary. So I was a good action| but maybe not the best thing for me. It was a good news| but we referred to it as bad news. I think I have that situation with| um| mirrors in laws| too. Rogers and Lost stuff Sweets into my mouth mirrors in law’s mirrors. Father in law| he regularly stuff Sweets into my He just loves the feed sweets these I have to father and laws that act very similar now. Lakis came over to date and almost done. Lackeys came over to Dayton| and they were driving through Columbus and they stopped in Columbus for SWAT Day. And in Columbus. There wasn’t a time yet to let everyone know that what was going on here. So the family was in Columbus| Kendra and everyone’s asking who they are talking to| who they are| and they say| Well| you know why you here? What do you up too? So you won’t believe what Christie said. It’s dressed| he said. We’re going to visit old people. That’s bad news. But it’s actually good news because later on I found out Drissi likes old people. It’s good news| but it’s bad news. Father in laws are similar. I have ah similar sting with daughter in law and son in law| wherever he is| that right there. So when we met their families and then one time| my son in law says something| something to the effect and I’ll just kind of say it. It’s| uh are there any hidden skeletons in the closet? He’s referring to bones. So one day where I think was a birthday there| See| wrote a birthday card to me. And in the birthday card| she said thanks or something to the effect. Thanks for being the bones in our family in backbones of our family backbones family. In many provisions| Balaji has said that we need to have strength| intelligence and feelings. I took that as a compliment. I took that as a compliment| both of them referring to bones backbone or what| man? We| um I I love our kids. We love our kids. We love all our family members and their season part of our family| um| she is referred to as many daughters are as princesses. Um| I’m gonna change that. She’s no longer a princess. Now she is a queen. He is. We played this little game with| uh| Disney movies. Um| when your princess| there’s a lot of responsibilities ago with that| too. We like Disney movies. I like Disney movies when the kids were young because it’s entertaining for them| but it gives them a lesson as every movie has a certain good lesson. So she is part of our family if you allow us to love her| to do things for her| whereas you all have done things for her that will allow us to love her and show our love to her think.